Happiness goals 2015

Budgi.nl wrote an artikel which inspireert me. An article about happiness and things you should or shoud not do to try and reacht it. Being happy is not self-evident. Especially if you had to deal with many setbacks and perhaps still must endure. No matter how hard you try to lead a positive and happy life, nothing seems to work and it may seem like you are cursed. I have felt like that some times. Wondering why life threw at me what it has thrown at me. Budgi says we are not cursed but we shouldn't want that much. This lies in our personality which is something only you can change. Being happy and having carefree life, always starts with yourself. These things can help is with that.

1. Quit wanting to be right
Is it wordt the trouble of jeoperdizing your relationship with someone just because you (feel you) are right? Always aks yourself this question. You night find the answer is 'no' once in a while. 

2. The need for controle.
Don't be a controlefreak and be prepared to let go of the need to controle everything and everyone. Let people be who they are and accept that.

3. Negativity
Don't get caught up in negativity. Belive in yourself, create and seize your chances and don't always think the worst about yourself.

4. Limits

Stop to impose limits to what you can or cannot achieve. Spread your wings and fly as high as you can without thinking about limits.

5. Complaining
Don't complain about everyone and everything. Nothing or nobody can make you unhappy if you don't allow it. So, don't allow it and be positive.

6. Criticism
Stop criticizing others. People are unique, but at the same time the same. We all want to be happy, to love and to be loved. Criticism is obsolete.

7. Impressing
Don't try so hard to be some you are not. People are impressed and o attracted to you when you show them the real you.

8. Embrace change
The only constant in life is change. Change is good and is the only thing which gets you from A to B. Resisting change is the worst thing you can do.

9. Labels
Stop sticking a label on everything and everyone who is different from you. Your mind only works when it is open to new things.

10. Fear
Fear is an illusion. It doesn't really exist, you are the one who creates it.

11. The Past
Letting go of the past isn't easy. Especially when the past seems so nice compared to the present, and you're afraid of the future. But the present is all you have got. Stop living in the past and live in the present with everything you do, with an eye to the future. Just so you can enjoy life.

12. Ties
Learn to let go. Do not give up what you love, but let go of the things that unconsciously limit you in what you can and can not achieve.

13. Don't live to the expectations of others
Your life is yours and yours alone. Too many people live as if their life belongs to others. They live by the values, norms and expectations of their parents, friends, enemies, teachers, government and media. But not you, you should listen to what your inner voice says. You need to discover what makes you happy and pursue that at all costs. You only have one life. Use it to do what you, and not others, considers important.

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Life can be a puzzle. It is a puzzle for most of us. You can go on day by day on what feels like an automatic pilot. But what do we do it for? And does it make us really happy? For that is what I think we should seek. We should seek out that what makes us happy. Not in a selfish way, but in finding what it is that makes you care about the world and about others. I don't know if my computer work and desk job make me happy for the rest of my life (Yes, it comes back to my job a lot, but that is a big part of who I am now. And it sure claims a lot of space in my life because I think it is not that what makes me happy). If I find that, I can start giving in return. Because when you find what gives you energy. You don't have to seek anymore and you can focus on other stuff. At least that is the way I think it should be or can be. Or am I just also controlled and brainwashed by society and is it just utopia?

Ciao!

Ixis

Talk Less, Do More

Ok, who am I kidding. I'm not a 'live-life-to-the-fullest' kinda person. I wish I was, but I'm not. All these quotes like 'live like there is no tomorrow' and 'live like everyday can be your last' are very beautiful ánd very true! But I don't life up to them. I'm very much of a doubter. About which glasses to buy, whether this pants look good on me, about whether or not to go to a party, about love.. sort off about everyting. I should talk less about these things and do more! I want to go that party, but on the other hand I don't. Why? I think because I almost never do things like this. I'm not spontaneous. Sometimes I'm jealous of some of my friends, just because they áre those type of persons who just do things. They feel like it, and they go for it. What's wrong with me that I am not like that? Eventually people may stop ask me to join for parties or other events because they know I will never come (well not never, but let's say, not often either). Because it's difficult with travel, with the time to come home, with my mom who rather has me close by to protect me. Yeah... and me? I'm a wimp who listens to all of it. As you may reason from this, I'm very insecure. Whether or not I'm liked enough and everything. I should stop talking about it and do more! Because every time I hear my friends talk about things they did, I whished I was there to join them and enjoy it with them. Sometimes I'm complaining that I'm not undertaking enough now that I'm still young. So I should just stop talking and do more. But why am I still in two minds?

Ciao!

Ixis

The happiness of doing a good deed

Give from your heart

Ever got that feeling of joy and fulfillment when you did a good deed? I had a moment of that the other day, when helping an elderly lady find her way around the trainstation. When I walked towards the station I already saw her standing there, looking around and scanning the people passing by. Probably to pick out a 'decent' person before asking something. When I walked by, I politely smiled and said mornin'. Apparently she felt I was decent enough because she asked me how to buy a ticket to the next trainstation. My train wouldn't arrive the very minute so I helped her out. It just felt so good to help someone who is less familiar with these (in her eyes) modern machines to buy tickets. It's just a small thing, but I felt good about it. And I hope this lady felt good about it too and appreciated my help.

One of the greatest things any of us can do in life is reach out and do a good deed for another human being. Whether it means offering your love and compassion, or making a charitable donation of time, energy, or money, there are many ways to bring sunshine into the lives of others. It was here where I read about 21 ways to do a good deed. Nice ways in which little effort can (hopefully) mean a big deal to someone else.

Ciao!

Ixis